No Scandal is Complete Without a Drug Abuse Angle

March 13, 2008


This just gets sadder and sadder…
Ashley Youmans, aka Ashley Alexandra Dupre, aka “Kristen”:

… writes that she left home at 17 to begin “my odyssey to New York.”
“It was my decision, and I’ve never looked back,” she writes. “Left my hometown. Left a broken family. Left abuse. Left an older brother who had already split. Left and learned what it was like to have everything, and lose it, again and again.
“Learned what it was like to wake up one day and have the people you care about most gone. I have been alone. I have abused drugs. I have been broke and homeless. But, I survived, on my own. I am here, in NY because of my music.”

5 Responses to “No Scandal is Complete Without a Drug Abuse Angle”

  1. ohok Says:

    who hasn’t abused drugs? look at obama or any other rockstar/celebrity/politician. is it because their lifestyles dictate it? no, usually they abuse drugs during their formative years. why is it so hard to believe drugs of abuse are addictive and therefore abused?


  2. speedwell Says:

    You view a young woman who feels like she is a survivor and a success as a sad thing? Wow, that’s, uh, sad.


  3. DrugMonkey Says:

    You view a young woman who feels like she is a survivor and a success as a sad thing? Wow, that’s, uh, sad.
    What I am sad about is that prostitution was the route to this self empowerment. Sad that the broken family, abusive upbringing and history of drug abuse is such a prominent feature of so many that end up in prostitution. Sad because what I infer from this picture is that she is not in fact a “survivor and a success”. Sad because her life ambitions are in music, not to be in the prostitution business, questioning the “success” part of the equation. Sad because I’m sure the phone calls from the porn industry are deluging this poor soul, trolling fabulous amounts of cash in front of her. Sad because I anticipate she’ll go down that path.
    With that said, I welcome the arguments, preferably backed with data, that show me that this career path can in fact be fulfilling without any unusual psychological or other health damage… Then I might reconsider my position.


  4. DuWayne Says:

    Drugmonkey –
    I have no data, nor do I necessarily disagree with you in this case. But I can tell you that having other ambitions and getting into prostitution or other aspects of the sex trade are not mutually exclusive.
    Susan, the girl I lost my virginity to, really liked it (as did I). It was my thirteenth birthday, she was twelve – we had wondered long and hard about what the big deal was with sex, having been told so strenuously that it was evil to do, outside the auspices of wedlock. We were very close friends, as our families were rather tight. Forward eight years, she’s living in Nevada, having the sex for a (very good) living and going to school. She was also pursuing her dream of writing. The last I saw her, about six years ago (we’re both in our early thirties now) she had become a published author and was still demanding a small fortune for a very good sexing (we did it for old times sake years befire, she is very good).
    When I was a younger pretty boy, I tried my hand at being a gigolo. Were it legal and safe, I would have been happy to prostitute myself, in effect I sort of was. I played with a lot of bands when I traveled and worked (for little to nothing) in theater in St Louis. I also did a lot of drinking and drugging and for a short while was a stripper in a gay club that was, err, less than respectable. I was not in desperate need of money, I had a patron (read, a wealthy gay gent who would have jumped at the chance to play with my bits, but mostly appreciated my acting and writing of music and poetry) who provided me with a room to sleep, a room to work in, food, tobacco, booze, weed, bus passes and cab fare when needed and a two-hundred dollar weekly allowance. He also got me into a different theater company, where I not only acted, but co-wrote a play.
    I would have jumped at the chance to actually sell my sexing, not because I needed the money, but because I loved Teh Sex and would have really loved making money by providing good sex. Really, my desire to sell myself was fueled by narcissism rather than substance abuse.
    Most of the prostitutes I have known, were either young men, or worked with the aforementioned Susan, in Nevada where it is legal, so my perception is assuredly skewed. But of the motivations for being a prostitute, narcissism seems to be high on the list of the ones I have met. I don’t doubt that there are plenty of people who become prostitutes because of horrendous circumstances, possibly even most, but I don’t buy the notion that this is because of the nature of prostitution, rather I think this is the case because it’s illegal. I suspect that given a firm legal footing, prostitutes would mostly become such, because they are sex loving narcissists.
    I would also note, that while I didn’t spend much time with the women Susan worked with, we did meet several of them for lunch one day. Most of them, like Susan, had more in their lives than just prostitution, none of them appeared to be unhappy or disappointed in their lives. One of them was even married, a couple had kids. They made good money, worked in a very secure environment, some probably fed their egos and narcissism.


  5. DrugMonkey Says:

    Thanks DuWayne. A fascinating series of observations here.


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